Single & Mingling

Awkward Girl, Dating, Fashion

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“In today’s Tinder-verse, everyone and anyone can get laid if they really want to, so just be real about what you want.” –Emily Sher

I feel like Emily Sher summed up my feelings on tinder and dating perfectly.  It’s so easy for people to find a quick hook up with such little effort that the excitement of dating and getting to know another person seems to be getting left behind.  Is dating a thing of the past?  I sure hope not, because being an introvert and a cautious person in general, I can’t handle this modern dating scene!  Having been quite single since leaving college and my small college town, I get asked by friends, family and some randoms who have no business asking, if I’m dating anyone and if I’ve tried online dating.  I can feel my blood start to boil just thinking about how uncomfortable this makes me.  I just want to run away!  No I haven’t tried online dating, I’m only 24!

So for now, I read about other peoples dabbles in online dating.  Natalie Joos, of the Tales of Endearment blog I recomended in my Fashion Blogs to Follow, has some great insight and a lassez faire attitude I really appreciate and relate to.  Her take on dressing for dates is super helpful for the girls like me who dress for other fashion girls as oppose to appealing to a larger audience (i.e. men).

Maybe a time will come when I decide to try online dating, but for now I’m hoping to meet someone the old school way.  I won’t be waiting around for Prince Charming though.  My approach is to be real about what I want and when I am interested in someone, I don’t hesitate to make it known.  Rejection happens, but dating is fun!  Getting to know myself and new people is what it’s all about.  I’d love to hear other philosophies on dating, so please share!

-S

Fashion Blogs to Follow

Beauty, Dating, Fashion, Quick Read, Travel, Workplace

These are my most visited blogs and I’ll tell you why!

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pursenboots.blogspot.com

Written by: Ashley Glorioso

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Senior Stylist for Nasty Gal.  She is a bad ass boho chick, who knows how to make fun of herself and some of her off the wall fashion choices.  I love the little tidbits she writes at the bottom of her photo’s that chronicle a bit of her life and how/why she put that particular outfit together.  She wears lots of Zara, For Love and Lemons, Nasty Gal and amazing vintage finds.  Her style faves seem to be booties, ripped tees, sequins, fur jackets, lace/knits and a touch of well layered and simple jewelery.  Check out her feature on the Nasty Gal Blog as well.

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talesofendearment.com

Written By: Natalie Joos

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I think of her as the real life Carrie Bradshaw.  A real, New York City casting agent and consultant to fashion brands across the board.  She’s a street style favorite and has a look that is so uniquely her own, I have yet to see anyone else master it quite as well.  With pieces of clothing that look more like artwork to me, she is able to mix and match bold prints and shapes that many would never think to do.  She pulls it all off, always, with simple hair and makeup that rivals all the gold and glitter I’m usually attracted to.  A must read from vintage to modern fashion lovers.

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chicityfashion.com

Written By: Jena Gambaccini

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I am not totally sure how I stumbled upon this blog, but I think it was through the popular page on Instagram.  I’d love to live in Chicago at some point, so I started following chicityfashion with the idea that I could get a feel for what the fashion there is like.  Turns out Jena is a girl after my own heart who loves food, fashion and living the city life!  Her style has a bit of a structured, tomboy feel, with lots of girly details.  She loves everything over sized, simple gold jewelry and mani Monday.

Above are my top three, that I literally look at almost everyday.  Here are a few others to check out.

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thezoereport.com

Written By: Rachel Zoe & Team

The Zoe Report is less of a blog and more straight to the point fashion and beauty recommendations.  The reason I don’t frequent it more often is because the products are often out of my price range, which just makes me sad.  I am not a fan of window shopping, which is what it feels like to oggle over designer goods on The Zoe Report.  What I do like is the the coverage of fashion trends and happenings in the fashion world.

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refinery29.com

Founded By: Philippe Von Bories, Justin Sefano, Christene Barberich & Piera Gelardi

This site has many writers now, but started from a small team of four friends.  Their posts are definitely aimed at the mid-20’s gal which obviously appeals to me. The overall tone of the site is best described as cheeky.  Most of their articles have a fun/naughty twist which makes reading about things like cures for acne more tolerable.  I’ve put to good use much of their beauty and fashion advice.

 

 

The One Question you Should Ask a Potential Mate

Books, Dating, Quick Read

If you could ask a potential mate one question, what would it be?

I always remember a story about a family friend who asked his sister’s boyfriend, “What’s the manliest things you’ve ever done?” If I was the boyfriend, I would have asked in return, “What’s the most feminine things you’ve ever done?” I know there would be a good story in there.

But if we are being serious about finding “the one,” what questions should we ask? I’ve been reading a book about introversion called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Sarah Cain. Cain posits that because blushing is uncontrollable, it makes it socially useful. Blushing “is an authentic sign of embarrassment” and embarrassment is a moral emotion. When someone blushes, we know that they care. In order to see if someone is moral and caring, we should ask a question to see if they respond with a blush.

Dacher Keltner, author of Born to Be Good, would only ask a single question at a speed-dating event. That question would be: “What is your last embarrassing experience?” Then he would look for lip presses, blushing, and averted eyes. These are all common signs of embarrassment.

Keep this in mind the next time you are trying to figure out if you should pursue someone. But what do you do if you are in a modern day, online relationship? Ask the question and look for the blushing emoticon… — J

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